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Korea is our friend, korea has very interesting and tasty foods, and korean peoples are so sweety,friendly and korea has very strange culture... i would like go to there.
In Korea, there is a social ‘hierarchy,’ although you can’t see this when you visit Korea as a tourist. There are lots of variables that contribute to this. I will explain a little bit of those.
First, age will contribute to your power of speech. When you are older than any person, then you get to override whatever the younger person says. Even if the younger person thinks this is not fair or this is wrong, he/she cannot say anything simply because the person who is speaking is older than him/her so he/she has to obey to that. This is just one of the remnants of ‘Confucianism’ which Korea had inherited from China in 1400s. This means you cannot be friends with anyone below or above your age. If I am 18 now, then I will always have to speak respectfully. (It is kinda hard to explain this in English, but basically it’s like ~요, ~합니다, ~입니다 which is talking in a more honorific way to the older ones.) If you fail to adhere to this, then you will be deemed ‘disrespectful’ and get scolded or even get hit.
Note: Korean age system is very different from that of any country. In Korea, when you are born, you are automatically 1 year old. Then when the first day of new year comes, then you are 2 years old. Then the first day of new year after that year comes, you are 3 years old. This means that if one is born on December 31st, 2016 then one will be 2 years old even though that baby was born in less than 24 hours ago.
Second, your alma mater matters a lot. Some top universities in Korea are Seoul National University, Korea University, Yonsei University, etc. and if you attended those schools, people will automatically admire you and think that you are smart. They deem that having a degree from those universities is an indicator of ‘success’ in social life. If you are not from a school which is widely known in Korea, people will think you did not study that hard in high school and think you are stupid and sometimes even useless. Also, if you are from ‘ivy league’ schools, then Korean people will think you are some kind of genius and admire you even more than when you are from top universities in Korea. I have no idea why but Korean people’s obsession with ivy league is insane.
Third, your job will also matter. This is kind of weird but people think being a doctor, a lawyer, a judge (in a court), a professor, a salary-man in big name companies (Samsung, Hyundai, etc.) is a ‘successful life’ in Korea. There are some kinds of job that Koreans deem as ‘successful.’ People will admire you when you have those kinds of jobs. It’s not like people will belittle you when you have other jobs than those jobs, but still there is a social discrepancy.
These variables will contribute to your social ‘hierarchy’ and will determine how you are treated among people in Korean society. I put quotation mark in hierarchy because it is not easily visible in foreigner's eyes but in native Korean’s eyes, it is easily visible.
Education
As I said above, part of the social ‘hierarchy’ is determined by going to a prestigious university. If you get into one of those universities, you will have relatively easy time getting jobs and getting promoted. Therefore, students are obsessed with getting into one of those universities. They study hard and often times sleep deprived. (If you want to look at how high school students in Korea live, look at
) The education is only about ‘how to solve a test problem efficiently and quickly,’ not about ‘to understand this content and how to apply it to real world.’ In Korean high school, when I did not understand how the antiderivatives work, I tried hard to digest it thoroughly. it did not work and I consulted to my math teacher. He said “if you can’t understand, just memorize it.” This pretty much summarizes how Korean schools educate their students. The objective is not ‘to actually learn the materials’ but ‘to memorize and successfully take the exam.’ Because of this style of education, I myself sometimes did this when I was in USA. When I was studying electromagnetism, I did not understand some parts (Biot-Savart law, Maxwell-Ampere law) and I just ended up memorizing the equations and the problems without actually understanding. I am used to doing this and I really should stop this when I go to college, because knowing how to solve a test question does not mean you actually understand the material.
Various discriminations
If you are a black person living in Korea, tough luck. Koreans think black people are inferior, unintelligent, incompetent. They do not like them living in Korea. Although this is changing gradually as younger generations are being educated, still older generations will often think that way. However, Korean people do not have any bad feelings toward white people. Korean people like white people and admire them. They think white people are superior. I do not like this kind of discrimination but that’s how it is, still, in Korean society.
If you are a gay or lesbian or whatever sexual orientation that you prefer, tough luck again. There is no notion such as ‘a guy likes a guy’ or ‘a girl likes a girl.’ This is also changing gradually these days but still if you are any other sexual orientation rather than ‘heterosexual,’ people will not accept you as who you are. That’s why there is little LGBTQ community in Korea and they are very secretive.
A lot of social pressure
People have a high expectation on you wherever you go. They always want you to overachieve and to be successful. This happens especially within your family. Your parents will insist you to be successful academically in school and will send you to hagwons (private academy for supplemental education outside of schools). If you do not earn a good grade, parents will scold you. If you do not get into a prestigious university or get a good job, then your family will be shameful of you. (This connects a lot with the social ‘hierarchy’ aspect I explained above) This aspect is extreme in South Korea and this causes a lot of people to commit suicide in Korea annually. This comes from the 1950s when Korea was still a third world country and people were trying to develop Korea rapidly after the Korean war. Thanks to this, Korea was able to develop rapidly and Korea is in the place where Korea is now, but I am sometimes skeptical if people need to be pressured even nowadays. Maybe this is because Korea is a small country and there are so many people in such a small country and people need to survive in such a competitive nation.
I can go on but I think I’ve covered the gist of what your question was asking. Overall, South Korea is an attractive country. I encourage you to visit once in your life; you won’t regret it. However, living in Korea as a Korean is stressful and pressuring.
Personally, I like South Korea as a country but I do not like what is going on inside Korea between the people that much. You will understand what I’m saying if you read through my entire answer thoroughly.